How I “Try” To Deal with Less than kind people

{I bought this simple bracelet this past weekend at the Bryant Park Holiday Market in NYC as a constant reminder that I am really all I need.}

Let’s be honest, no matter how hard we try there are always going to be people who we just don’t click with. It happens, it’s real, and for most of my life, I’ve always tried to analyze the why’s. Why isn’t this person warm and fuzzy? Why does that person consistently say mean things and criticize everything I do? What did I do to them to cause this reaction?  Why can’t we all just get along?

But over time with lots of counseling sessions and chats with friends, I am “trying” to come to the conclusion that maybe it is what it is? Maybe I DIDN’T do anything.  Maybe it is sometimes my anxiety when I tend to overthink and worry about things.   Does it really, truly matter?

Also, I’ve never been a person to say rude or smug comments to people or speak aloud what I’m thinking, so I find it very hard to wrap my brain around why this sometimes happens to me.  Is anyone else like that?

So what am I doing to deal with this?  First, I am really trying NOT to overthink and to just let things be.  J has helped me a lot with this issue and always reminds me not to read into things.  Second, in the last few years I have begun to come into my own skin and am more confident with who I am.  My circle of friends is small and my parents mean the world to me.  My mom is my best friend.  So what others say or think bothers me a little, but means less and less to me now than it did a few years ago.  I’m not saying any of this is easy, but this is an ongoing journey that I will be on for a long, long time.

 

 

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